FamilyLife Blended® Minute
You’re Not My Dad–Part 2
What would you say to a stepchild who just said, "You are not my dad. I do not have to do what you say."
About the Guest
Part two of the response turns the corner and deals with the behavioral issue of the moment. "You're right. I'm not your dad but I am the adult here right now and you still have to clean your room. Besides if your mom were here she'd be asking you to clean your room, too. So it's your call. You can clean it yourself or we'll use your allowance and pay your sister to do it for you." Then turn and walk away. You know, kids need understanding and compassion. They also need to clean their room.
Ron DealRon L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series
What would you say to a stepchild who just said, “You are not my dad. I do not have to do what you say.”