FamilyLife Blended® Minute
Don’t Assume, Ask the Stepmom
No, don't assume. Ask the stepmom.
About the Guest
Being a stepmom is different from being a Mom. So I tell stepmoms, slow your roll and adjust your expectations. But dads need to adjust their expectations, too. If a dad assumes his kids will embrace her as Mom, he expects too much and that leads to conflict. So dad: cherish her as your wife and give her Mom-like respect in front of your kids. Ask her if she's comfortable with a particular role or parenting task. Don't assume and play to her strengths so everyone wins.
Ron DealRon L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series
No, don’t assume. Ask the stepmom.