What was your courtship like? How did you come to marry?
When did you first become aware of a lack of spiritual unity?
How do the spiritual differences in your marriage make you feel?
How do you think your spouse sees themselves – as a believer in Christ, an agnostic, an atheist, or some other philosophy?
How has the spiritual mismatch affected your marriage in practical ways that make daily life difficult?
How does your difference in beliefs affect your parenting?
Is your spouse open to discussing areas of faith?
Does your spouse ridicule you or try to pressure you not to actively practice your faith? If so, what does that look like?
What do you believe are the most important things God has shown you in this process?
Have you become disheartened or do you still have hope?
What adjustments have you made in your marriage to accommodate the spiritual differences you and your spouse have?
How do you respond when there are struggles or arguments over spiritual issues? How does your spouse respond?
In what way do you think you are representing Christ to your spouse? In what ways could you improve in this area?
Why do you think God allowed you to marry your spouse? How do you think God can use your marriage to glorify Himself?
What specific actions or attitudes in your home do not express loving leadership (husband) or godly submission (wife)?
What changes do you believe God would have you make to more closely represent Christ in your marriage? Was there specific truth from God's word that led you to seeing a need for change in this area?
Are you actively involved in a local church and what impact has that had on your marriage? Does your spouse support your involvement or has it been a source of tension? What are your spouse’s expectations and how have you responded?
Have you been able to find a healthy balance between your love for serving God and your responsibilities to your spouse? What has that looked like specifically in your situation? What would your spouse say about you in this area?
Are there specific questions or concerns that you’d like to discuss with me?
How can I pray for you?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?