Remembering my identity in Christ

The Search: Who Am I Now?

From widow and single mother to second wife and stepmom, my soul suffered an identity crisis.

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Survival Tips for the first year of stepfamily life

Survival Tips for the First Year of Stepfamily Life

Ten ideas that helped (or would have helped) my family during our first blended year.

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Knowing God

A Healthy Stepfamily Needs ‘God-Esteem’

Jesus told us to love our neighbors as ourselves, but that requires first knowing who we are in Christ.

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Go on a road trip

Creating Closer Relationships in Stepfamilies

Strengthen bonds between kids and stepparents by going on a trip that doesn’t fit into the status quo.

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Your Attitude Toward Your Ex Impacts Your Co-Parenting

Co-Parenting Doesn’t Have to Be Ugly

When the world is telling you to blame your ex-spouse and embrace bitterness, you can work on turning your thoughts toward a peaceful working relationship.

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A Time to Grieve During Stepfamily Holidays

Three helpful hints I use to navigate the holidays in my blended family.

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Christmas as an Adult Child of Divorce

Navigating the Holidays as an Adult Child of Divorce

At Christmas, decisions for an adult child of divorce become especially difficult, with both parents vying for your loyalty and attention.

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Blended family

Grafting: A Painful but Beautiful Process for Blended Families

Your blended family may have another river to cross and a few more battles to face, but don’t give up—significant rewards lie ahead.

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Stepparenting Law

Stepparenting and the Law

Even though the legal rights of a stepparent over his or her stepchildren is limited, love is not limited.

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Outsiders in blended families

Extending Love and Grace to Outsiders in Blended Families

God showed His love for us by bringing the outsider in, and that’s how Christians should love the “extended” members of stepfamilies.

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Divorced parents

Divorced Parents Can Co-Parent Peacefully

Divorced parents should constantly evaluate themselves and ask if their behavior is helping or hurting their children.

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Relationship with stepchildren

How to Cook a Stepfamily

I like to use cooking as an analogy to identify some integration styles that stepfamilies attempt to utilize.

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Parents Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Biological parents who find themselves caught between their spouse and their child should step out of the conflict as often as possible.

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Stepparenting teenagers

Stepparenting Teenagers

Adolescence is a natural time of turmoil in nearly every family.

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Dealing with ex-spouse

Dealing With a Destructive Ex-Spouse

One of the most menacing dynamics attacking the health of a stepfamily is a destructive parent in the other home.

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Blended family

Setting Boundaries for a Meddling Ex-Spouse

When you have a new marriage and blended family, it’s important to build a respectful working relationship with your ex.

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Resurrected Pain

Be prepared to face loss as you celebrate the holidays.

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Having an ours baby

Having an ‘Ours’ Baby

If you are planning to have an ours baby, here are some suggestions to consider for preparation.

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Do You Feel Like an Outsider With Your Stepchildren?

Practical suggestions for stepmoms.

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Resolving conflict

Honest Communication Is a Stepfamily’s Greatest Ally

Every time David successfully put off another conflict, he stored up resentment toward his wife or stepchildren for “controlling him.”

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Stepfamilies: Is This Normal?

I’ve had the privilege of traveling to Africa a few times in my life. The rules of the road and expectations of other drivers are not like those in the…

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Talking about divorce

7 Suggestions for a Parent Going Through Divorce

She did her best to turn our four sons and small community against me.

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Life Lessons of a Control Freak

Growing up, my parents provided for my brothers and me whatever they could, but money wasn’t always available. Yet they gave me something far greater than the expensive trappings of…

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Blended families

Stepfamilies Are Different … and the Same

God’s principles for living still apply and still hold promise for a healthy home, no matter how that home came together.

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When a Stepparent Feels Like an Outsider

Did you ever play the game Lock Out on your school playground? The game begins when kids form a circle by interlocking arms. Then one person on the outside attempts…

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Stepmom: The Place Between Rock and Hard

Stepfamilies are hard no matter what your circumstances were before remarriage. Here are seven practical steps for healthy relationships.

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Special needs blended family

Autism and the Blended Family

Your special needs stepfamily can find peace and stability with time and the right tools and perspective.

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Family meeting

Family Identity, Family Meeting

For stepfamilies, family meetings can build much needed family traditions, create memories, and establish a working family identity.

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Tips for stepfamilies

10 Survival Tips for Stepfamily Life

Many couples travel to the “foreign country” of stepfamily living with little or no preparation.

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Misplaced Frustration

We’ve all done it: We’ve all unjustly taken our anger against one person out on another. The question is, what do we do about it?

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